It's a thing that women like to talk about in theory and in fiction where the man (specifically the man) should ask the direct questions of
Can I touch you like this?
Can I kiss you/Do you want to kisthus?
is this OK with you?
But the reality is thst when you do things like this almost all women get turned off. The only women who don't get turned off are the ones who are more emotionally dominant and only when that behavior is coming from a man that is more submissive.
Generally, the best thing to do is to say
please get away from me
Or
why are you so close to me
When a woman wants to get close in modern times.
You might feel had because maybe she is special or unique and could be a good partner for you in life, but that's a really stupid way to think.
You may as well feel bad about not checking in garbage cans for precious jewels or minerals.